Rejection, even a single word, carries a weight, and it hurts. Whether it’s about a love that didn’t work out, a job title that you didn’t get, or a vision of a dream that wasn’t realized the way you wanted—rejection can seem to you like a personal insult to your value.
Can it be considered a different story?
Is it possible that we treat reframing our understanding of the situation from rejection to a player in our lives as a possibility for regeneration, a chance to be better and much more in accordance with what we are meant to be?
To say that no single person is able to get through life without being rejected may not be wrong. Let’s face it—the pain of being turned down is such that it stays. It may not be fair, but still, it does not pick its victim. This soreness is genuine; it is acceptable to be in sorrow about unfortunate things. It is okay to have feelings. But after the initial state, it is in your hands to make a decision: either lie down or lift yourself up.
It is a fact that even the most prosperous people, such as entrepreneurs, artists, and some other leaders, have been put through it countless times. What many people do not know is that Jobs was ousted from his company, Apple, which he established. Rowling received plenty of rejections even before Harry Potter was eventually released. And still, they did not stop working on their projects; they drew from the experience in order to move forward.
Transforming Pain To Strength
Whenever we go through a phase of being turned down, one of the things that comes naturally is to have a strong desire to show that the world is incorrect. However, the fact that this kind of motivation can be very effective, the biggest part of the fire comes from the fact that you are really worth it, whether others agree or have it another way. Make use of the pain. Change it to become the energy that can be used to develop, to grow, to attempt to reach your goal again with the help of better methods. Use it as a source of inspiration for your talent, self-care, and your goals. Let this pain give you the trigger to grow into the new self that you desire to be.
The list below shows how, from our acceptance of rejection, we can move into the process of rebuilding:
- Reflection of yourself—it obliges you to take a break and consider what is significant for you.
- Loss of bindings—rejection helps you release the things not yours.
- Out the real you – Realizing that you have been defeated by rejection shows that you have been more enduring than you expected.
- Source of encouragement—You can gain new skills, views, and emotional depth.
- Re-creation of yourself—it is the process of self-building that reminds you of your personal worth and is not formed by others’ opinions.
- Fosters change—it makes you seek new goals and a different direction. The problem disappears, and now you can shift to a new task.
- Creator of a new personality—By our politeness and grace in facing rejection, our emotional intelligence becomes stronger and stronger.
The process of building up your self-confidence again can be initiated by reminding yourself about your self-value, which is independent of the opinion of others.
Who are you when you are alone? What accomplishments allow you to respect yourself? What experiences did you surpass that define you as strong?
Self-value is not produced through instances of applause—it is actually created through silence, strength, and the capability to persevere despite tough situations.
Self-worth isn’t built during the clapping—it is built during the time that is silent, when being strong, when having an ability to restart everything even in the time that things are falling apart.
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Writer,
Most. Jannatul Ferdouse Richi
Intern, Content Writing Department
YSSE