How You Can Embrace Your Personal Leadership Style. 

Leadership is the capacity of an individual or a collective to inspire and direct those who follow or belong to a particular organization, society, or group. It involves the actions taken by the leader to guide both a team and a group effectively. The leader has those types of abilities which he/she shows and works for organizations also his/her life. A leader can use their abilities to carry out meaningful work that benefits society and enhances their own life.

A leader knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.- John C Maxwell.

Self-leadership is the practice of understanding who you are, identifying your desired experiences, and intentionally guiding yourself toward them. It spans the determination of what we do, why we do it, and how we can do it.

When we discuss self-leadership, we need to ask if we have healed from past hurts. Are we leading while feeling irritated or frustrated? These are guardian parts that have been created in answer to a previous trauma. If we lead with this negative emotion we are not going to get the best results with our colleagues or the company we are working with.

Rather, self-leadership authentically embodies our true selves in leadership roles, living our lives in a proper way. This does not mean leading from a defensive mindset that seeks to deny or repress our true feelings.

There is a challenge between male and female leadership, here is the description.

The Challenges of Female Leadership ; 

Why would someone see a woman as bossy and aggressive?

Is the woman in the leadership position bold and powerful in her communication reputation in self-leadership and leading authentically?

OR

Is the person listening to the women viewing the communication with a trauma-informed lens and are the emotions they are being captained about based on their past traumas that have initiated the emotion?

It’s not what was told or planned, but the person attending is processing the transmission in their habit. They need to call you that to make themselves sound better as such, because you know what you’re saying could be very much true, but the alternative is if they confess that it’s true, then they need to look in the mirror and know that it’s coming from themselves in that current situation.

Here is the next challenge we face while leading others.

One of the challenges of leading others is you usually don’t know about people’s past experiences which may activate shocking emotions.

Each person has a history, which we refer to as their internal family strategyIn this technique, a traumatizing d and less mature part of us creates beliefs and ways of dealing with things that happened to us in the past.our nervous system’s main goal then becomes avoiding painful emotions.As a result, we sometimes display a mix of protective behaviors, like  anger, frustration, or irritation. 

And then everything in our worried system becomes about shifting us away from feelings of pain. We then show up mixed with one of our protector parts which could then be anger, frustration, or irritation. It could even be things like habits, procrastination,  and public-pleasing.The key shift in improving ourselves is to understand that there are no inherently bad qualities. These behaviors are meant to keep us safe but might not always help us succeed

When you engage in self-leadership and notice that the person you are talking to is responding because of their own internal struggles, you may want to consider adjusting your communication. Realizing that something is bothering them, you can use your language, tone and pace to help soothe their anxious feelings, even if they may not be consciously aware of it.

We can consider it as “deduced communication” because it helps others calm down and shift to a more rational part of their brain, the neocortex. For that we connect with self-leadership so far.

Recognizing how people are mentally and emotionally is essential, whether they are in self-leadership mode or operating from their defensive instincts. Being aware of these dynamics, whether you are a CEO, manager or just working with colleagues, can greatly improve communication and connection in the workplace. This can result in increased long -term profitability. 

Better communication and stronger connections with your team can lead to long-term gains. To achieve this, identifying our behaviors and developing  self-awareness is also crucial. It enables us to step into self-leadership, control our nervous system, and demonstrate personal growth and leadership skills.

In the end, we should know that personal leadership is-

1. Focus on what could be, not what’s already happened. 
2. Surround yourself with a supportive group of advisors..
3. Acknowledge that You are Good Enough.
4. Build On Your Stability.
5. Indicate valor.
6. Embrace your inherent Leadership abilities.
7. Stop seeking for Affirmation.
8. Speak regularly with your teammates.

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Writer:- 

Morsheda Begum

Intern, Content writing Department 

YSSE